One of the most common themes I see in my practice is a lack of self-love. Over and over, I hear people judging themselves with harshness. They accuse themselves of being too much of something and not enough of something else. Ultimately, and unfortunately, people commonly see themselves as unworthy of love and happiness. The [...]
Couples often seek counselling thinking their problem is a “communication issue.” However, I believe there is a deeper issue that creates communication difficulties: an inability to self-regulate and co-regulate. What does “regulation” mean? When you are feeling calm, centered, grounded, relaxed, present, and available for social interaction, you are in a regulated state. In a [...]
We are wired for connection. As babies, we are completely dependent on the care of others for our survival. Our relationship to our caregivers is our lifeline, and any perceived threat to that relationship triggers a major reaction: brains and bodies go into “high alert” until we can be sure the bond is, in fact, [...]
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh! he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” -A.A. Milne We all need reassurance now and then, reassurance that our friend or partner is there for us. It is one of our basic human needs. Call [...]
What does it mean to be "heart-centered"? Two of my favorite spiritual teachers, Yogi Bhajan and Ram Dass, both talk a lot about the heart and the importance of being able to "come from the heart," so I was deeply intrigued by an article I just read about scientific research into this mystical organ. In [...]
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh! he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” -A.A. Milne We all need reassurance now and then, reassurance that our friend or partner is there for us. It is one of our basic human needs. Call it [...]
